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Anchorpoint Counseling Ministry Offers Solution Focused Methods of Resolving Conflict

Set Goals & Find Solutions with Solution-Focused Methods
By Don Shar, MA, NCC, Staff Therapist at Anchorpoint Counseling Ministry

A popular type of counseling is Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). SFBT is different from many types of counseling in that it relies little on examining previous failings, weaknesses and problems and, instead, focuses on clients’ strengths and previous successes. SFBT is based on conversations that result in defining and building solutions towards a preferred future.

Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.—A Proverb

Outside the counseling office, these solution-focused conversations are useful in helping individuals, families, and organizations to be more effective at solving problems. Much time and energy can be spent attempting to find the source of the problem, and who or what is to blame. Often, and especially in relationships, this is a bottomless pit. Being solution focused, rather than problem focused, avoids this trap and can result in joint effort towards common goals.

Here are some of the qualities of a solution-focused relationship:

The Solution-Focused Relationship

  1. Be respectful and hopeful. Spend the necessary time to clearly understand, accept, and appreciate what is important to others (and yourself). Paraphrasing what you’ve heard and then asking if what you said is accurate is a great way of checking for your understanding.
  2. Be cooperative and inclusive, rather than adversarial and divisive. During a disagreement, people will often use “Yes, but… “ statements which minimize what the other person is communicating and can invalidate their point of view. For example:

Spouse 1: “We should go on a nice vacation.”
Spouse 2: “Yes, but we need a new roof.” The “Yes, but” minimizes the previous statement and sets up an either/or (or win/lose) scenario.

Let’s try that again:

Spouse 1: “We should go on a nice vacation.”
Spouse 2: “Yes, and we need a new roof.” The “Yes, and” shows equal footing and value for both statements, and supposes a both/and (or win/win) possibility.

This is just one example of how small changes in language can alter a conversation in favor of cooperation. Continue Reading

Nonprofits Collaborate and Cooperate to Improve Services to the Community

Collaboration Builds Strength In addition to teaching its own students, Greater Pittsburgh Literacy Council (GPLC) is interested in improving the system of adult education programs in the entire region.  Over its 33-year history GPLC has provided many other literacy programs with training and advice.  As a large and experienced provider of services, GPLC has much… Continue Reading

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Macy’s Believe Campaign Kicks Off Across the Country

Macy’s iconic holiday program, benefitting Make-A-Wish®, begins this week with a special event at The Mall at Robinson. WHAT:  The magic of Macy’s Believe campaign returns for the eighth year to celebrate the season’s spirit of generosity and goodwill, all while benefitting Make-A-Wish. From November 6 through December 24, “Believers” of all ages can bring their… Continue Reading

Volunteer Leaf Rakers and Snow Shovelers Needed to Help Seniors

Volunteer Leaf Rakers and Snow Shovelers Needed to Help Seniors

Seniors need volunteer leaf rakers, snow shovelers Seniors in all neighborhoods in northern Allegheny County need volunteers to keep their yards and sidewalks safe by raking leaves and/or shoveling snow. This is a great project for teens, youth groups and families. Please contact Cathy at North Hills Community Outreach at 412-307-0069 ext 3313 or… Continue Reading

375 Seasonal Jobs Available

375 Seasonal Jobs Available

The Franklin Center of Beaver County, Inc. is sponsoring a hiring event on Thursday, November 12, 2015 from 10 A.M. – 2 P. M. at 464 Franklin Avenue, Aliquippa, PA 15001 Immediate interviews and hiring on the spot Apply today, Work Tomorrow (if Qualified) You MUST bring 2 forms of current / valid ID 375… Continue Reading

Salute the Parade of Veterans Luncheon at the Center at the Mall

Salute the Parade of Veterans Luncheon at the Center at the Mall

The Retired and Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP) and the Center at the Mall (CATM) are pleased to present Salute the Parade of Veterans Luncheon. This event will take place on Friday, November 13, 2015 from 11:00 – 2:00  at the Center at the Mall inside Beaver Valley Mall. Please join us! Veterans, your admission and… Continue Reading

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